Adoption of Children with Special Needs

Choosing to adopt a child with special needs is a life-changing decision. If you’re considering adoption, there are many ways you can begin to prepare yourself and your home. By doing your research and preparing yourself ahead of time, you can make a more informed decision, easily navigate adoption process, and be ready to provide a stable, loving and supportive home for a child.

There are over 100,000 children in foster care waiting to be adopted. Many of the children who wait the longest to become forever members of a new family have similar challenges--they often fit into one or more of the following groups:

• Seven years of age or older
• Part of a group of brothers and/or sisters that needs to be placed in a family together
• A member of a minority group
• Has disabilities which may involve mental, physical and/or behavioral challenges
• Is at risk for having learning, emotional, behavioral or physical disabilities in the future
• Was prenatally exposed to drugs or alcohol

Because children in foster care face change and doubt, and because many have suffered neglect or abuse, all children in the foster care system are thought to be at greater risk for life-long physical, developmental, behavioral, or emotional health issues. Many children in foster care need health care or other services beyond the type or amount needed by most children, and so they are called Children and Youth with Special Health Care Needs (CYSHCN), either by diagnosis or cause. Each state has its own definition of special needs to determine a child’s eligibility to have adoption assistance when adopted from the foster care system.

Adoption is a special process, and many adoptive parents say that finding and adopting their child was "meant to be." It is also a lot of work, and there are many considerations to be made when choosing to adopt a child with special needs:

• Extra financial resources are often needed to care for a child with special needs.
  • Talk with the case worker before placement to get a sense of what care and support a child may need.
  • Check with your health plan to make sure there is coverage for the child's needs. Some plans may even offer adoption assistance.
• Caring for children with special needs may be draining, both physically and emotionally for any parent.
  • Keep in mind that “caring for the caregiver” (yourself) is just as vital as caring for your child.
  • Your child’s health and well-being depend upon your health and ability to be there for them.

Talking with other parents of children with some of the same special needs as your own child can be helpful in knowing the essentials. Other parents can give you tips for the challenges, and they’ll also remind you of all the love and joy you’ll share with your child. Disability support groups and organizations can link parents with other parents and training sessions. Foster care and adoption agencies also offer training and support to parents before and after adoption; look to them for help finding support and training for your family.

If your child needs special accommodations, such as a wheelchair accessible home or car for accessibility, see these pages of the Medical Home Portal:

• Home Retro-fits and Switches
• Wheelchairs and Adapted Strollers
• Transportation and Travel for People with Disabilities

Being as ready as you can be will make your adoption go smoother, letting you focus on the “welcome home” for your child as you form a new family union.

Each adoption is one of a kind, and different circumstances will affect needs, costs, and even relationships between adopted children and their birth parents:

• In a “closed” adoption, the birth parents and adoptive parents do not know each other, either before or after the adoption.
• In an open adoption, the birth parents and adoptive parents will trade contact information, and may even arrange to meet with each other as the child grows, or they may simply keep contact by phone or email.

There are also different types of agencies. You can choose the type of adoption and the agency that is right for you:

While your adoption will be as unique as your child, there are common steps you must take to welcome a child with special needs into your family:

• Learn the adoption process and laws
• Search for and select an agency
• FIll out an adoption application
• Start the home study process.
  • This is a full evaluation of you, your family, and your home. It is a required step in approving you as an adoptive parent.
• Receive approval for a placement
• Search for a child
• Meet and have pre-placement visits with the child
• Set up your home for your child's arrival
• Begin building your own medical and support network
• Welcome your child into your family
• Finalize your adoption